We are all subject to various fears. At the same time, fear as a reaction to a frightening event is a completely natural feeling.
My first children’s fear, which I remember, I was very afraid of a huge lion under the bed at night (I don’t know why Leo!). Accordingly lower your legs to the floor from the bed (drink water or go to the toilet), was a huge problem. I don’t remember why and where this fear came from. And, of course, the fear of most children, this is the fear of darkness, therefore, falling asleep, my mommy has always turned on the nightlight.
Fears in children can be divided into natural (“instinctive” – fears of darkness, dangerous height, blood, injections and wounds, a terrible expression on the face that threaten people and animals), age -related ones (at first it is a fear of loneliness, then the fear of a stranger, later generated. imagination) and caused by incorrect education “pedagogical”.
And what the children are not afraid of!.. And what we do not come up with explanations for their fears!.. And as soon as we are not trying to cure our children from fears ourselves!.. But experts know for sure that parents have the most popular “therapeutic technique” in the fight against fears … shout. In second place – ridicule. On the third – threats and the fourth – beatings. That is, parents choose the same fear for the treatment of fears in children. The results of such treatment are observed by neuropathologists and, as a rule, terribly intimidated children lead to them, and much less often, those who can quickly and effectively help.
You can try to cope with the fears of the child, there is no universal and suitable method of combating fears with fears, but there are general principles.
The first principle is based on the fact that the child does not understand what he is afraid. Therefore, he needs to explain the nature of what he is afraid of, and he himself should not be afraid of this phenomenon (for example, thunder and lightning). As soon as the child understands that the frightening phenomenon does not harm you to whom he trusts, and then he will begin to cope with his fear on his own.
Second principle: imaginary is almost always worse than real. Therefore, you need to let your baby touch everything that he is so afraid of. For example, a large dog and thick grass look terribly scary and dangerous until the child finds that the dog’s wool is soft and warm, and the tongue is rough, the grass grows under the feet.
Third principle: with danger, first you need to play. We need to come up with light and always well finishing games with objects of fears: games in the dark, games in fairy tales, games in masks.
Dear mothers and dads, if you want to grow a good person, do not allow your child to fall into severe anger (he will give rise to revenge, experience great fear (he will kill the nobility of the heart) and deep sadness (it will feed selfishness).
Author: Natalia Konkova
Site: Women’s Paradise